Do you hear the words "Goal Setting" and roll your eyes or think - "yeah yeah - been there done that"?
Let me share part of my story with you. Because I used to do the same thing.
There have been so many years, I started out with great intentions and determination, however I never achieved what I wanted. Someone once said to me "you don't want it enough". I must admit I was a bit taken aback by this because I really do, until I realised I was "wishing" for it rather than making a plan and taking purposeful actions.
I used to say that I was too busy to stop and write a list, I just had to get on with it and get it done. However, I can testify that it doesn't work like that. Without a clear, detailed and purposeful plan - 99% of the time, you won't achieve anything and burn out in the process.
Goal Setting is more than writing a list, however it is worth your time to go through the steps. You may have heard of SMART Goals. (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant & Timely). We are going to work on that but I am also going to add FUN (Feeling, Understanding & Nurturing)
Let's start with the basics. Grab a notebook and start answering these questions.
What do you want to achieve?
Some people struggle with this question. Please let me help you. You are worthy! No matter what your childhood was like, your current situation or what others say about you - you are worthy of a good life.
You may have been looking after everyone else for so long, you don't know what you want. Be brave to dream big.
You do need to be very specific when deciding what you want to achieve. For example, if you want to lose weight - how much do you want to lose?
How will you measure your goal?
When setting your goal, you need to be able to measure your progress and the final result.
Depending on your goal, this could be a weekly weigh in, a daily checklist or a monthly financial review.
Is your goal achievable?
You do need to dream big, because a goal will need to take you outside of your comfort zone but it also needs to be achievable.
How do you find this balance? It can be different for everyone, however one way is to look at your previous achievements (don't tell you don't have any, because you got up today - that's a huge achievement because you haven't given up).
When your look back at what you have achieved, realise that you have actually conquered fear & doubt and stepped out of your comfort zone. (Way to go you!). You CAN do it again and you CAN do so much more.
One thing I'd like to add in this section is having a goal that is achievable isn't something you are already doing. You do need to push though, however don't start with something impossible (for now). For example, if you want to have a property portfolio - start with working towards having one property, and not 20 properties in the first year.
Is your goal relevant?
Your goal needs to be relevant to you. Some people make goals to please other people but those goals end up failing and you could start to resent the person you are doing it for.
Goal setting is all about you. And this isn't a selfish thing, it's more of a self care thing!
When do you want to achieve your goal?
You may have heard "write a goal in stone and the time frame in sand so you can move it if you need to". This is true, however don't use it as a cop out or an excuse.
Set a good time frame for your goal. The bigger the goal - the more time you will need. You can break it down into timely segments. For example, if you want to lose 10 kilos, you can set a time frame of losing 1 kilo per week with the end time frame being 10 weeks.
Now for some FUN!
When setting your goal - involve your Feelings. How will you feel when you achieve your goal? What will it look like? Let your imagination take hold. I like to have a vision board when doing this. Include words and pictures to describe how you will feel.
One thing that can happen with goals and taking actions to change our lives, is that we self sabotage. This is because deep down we don't believe we are worthy or capable. This is where we need Understanding. Start paying attention to your thoughts and words about yourself and write them down. As you are working through your goal process, keep a journal of these and any negative actions you take towards your goal. Capturing these negatives will help you because you can easily change them into positives. For example, if you say "I can't do this" stop saying that and say "I can do this". You may feel silly for awhile - but I promise you it will make a huge difference.
This brings us to Nurturing. You need to be kind to yourself. It takes a lot of emotional, mental and physical energy to make changes in our lives. We all make mistakes but we have to keep getting up and start again. Don't beat yourself up when you make a boo boo, admit it - then move on.
I hope this helps you get started on your goals for 2020.